Have you ever been at a party where everyone was in the zone, dancing the night away and then a neighbor knocks on the door with a noise complaint and kills the whole vibe? Sharing the intimate details of how I'm learning to love myself at any size isn't an easy thing to do. But when your comments roll in and I realize I'm not alone, the body confidence party begins! Of course, on each post there's always one vibe killing comment that goes something like this:
"Great piece. But being overweight is really unhealthy..."
The comment is usually followed by a cautionary list of ailments that I will get if I don't start taking care of myself (diabetes, heart disease, etc.).
*record screeches to a halt*
Its as if people think I don't know the health stats they're quoting. Or as if they don't care that I'm on a healthy curves journey. I feel like they're saying I'm not skinny right now, then I have no business writing anything positive about my body or how I look.
This is the Plus Size Princess struggle.
How do I love myself, value myself, care for myself at any size and keep the Body Confidence Party going, when there are people jumping at the chance to remind me that none of this matters if I'm still fat?
Mental health is a major part of plus size fitness, for me. I choose not to respond to negative comments, but I do want to mention it here with you girls because I know we're all trying to figure this out together.
Finding ways to feel good about myself no matter what the scale says is the thing that makes me want to do better by my body; eat well, work out, pray/meditate. I'm running my own race and for me, I've got to tackle this #PSPfit healthy living thing mind, body and spirit.
There will always be people who can't fathom that a person at our size (whatever that may be) feels good about herself. Those people seem to feel that they have a responsibility to interrupt our body confidence party with a PSA on how being fat is awful and unhealthy.
But hating yourself is awful and unhealthy too... so please stop killing my vibe!